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Diplomacy and Friendship
You're off to college and you may have either chosen your
roommate or you let the college pick one for you. Either
way, the same ground rules apply, and with careful thought you
might avoid the dreaded roommate from hell. Even better,
you might actually not end up being the roommate from hell.
Long Term Friends
Most college roommates end up with a friendship that lasts a
lifetime. However to ensure that everyone can live in
close quarters, there needs to be some guidelines.
The first thing to keep in mind is that you need to follow an
The rule goes like this:
80 percent of everything your roommate does needs to slide off
20 percent that is truly and really, really offensive - needs to
Before you ever arrive on campus, as soon as the roommate
assignment is made, contact your roommate and introduce yourself
if you don't already know each other. Talk about your
likes and dislikes and get to know each other. This is
also a great time to coordinate your dorm room. Your
roommate may be thinking of bringing a small refrigerator, now
you don't need to bring one, so you may offer to bring the TV.
Your roommate may mention they have a vacuum cleaner, you might
want to offer to bring a small area rug. See how that
goes? This way, your dorm room wont look like a department
store shipping & receiving area - it will actually end up being
- well - a dorm.
Remember the 80/20 rule? Only communication can
help you and your roommate get along. Let's face it, this
may be the smallest space you'll ever have to share with anyone.
Living in this small space may mean that your roommate might not
necessarily like tripping over all your shoes when they get up.
Your roommate should tell you, and you know what? - unless the
request is so unreasonable - you should try to comply.
With good, and often communication, you should be able to
resolve any minor differences you two would have.